“That’s when I finally got it. I finally understood. It wasn’t the thought that counted. It was the actual execution that mattered, the showing up for somebody. The intent behind it wasn’t enough. Not for me. Not anymore. It wasn’t enough to know that deep down, he loved me. You had to actually say it to somebody, show them you cared. And he just didn’t. Not enough.”
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June 2013
“We are more than the worst thing that’s ever happened to us. All of us need to stop apologizing for having been to hell and come back breathing.”
—Clementine Von Radics, Broken
“Marry your best friend. I do not say that lightly. Really, truly find the strongest, happiest friendship in the person you fall in love with. Someone who speaks highly of you. Someone you can laugh with. The kind of laughs that make your belly ache, and your nose snort. The embarrassing, earnest, healing kind of laughs. Wit is important. Life is too short not to love someone who lets you be a fool with them. Make sure they are somebody who lets you cry, too. Despair will come. Find someone that you want to be there with you through those times. Most importantly, marry the one that makes passion, love, and madness combine and course through you. A love that will never dilute - even when the waters get deep, and dark.”
—N’tima
“This is what you do. If you feel low, you stand tall. You mess up, you move on. You want to try something, try it, and if it was a stupid thing to try, you look it in the eye. There’s no turning back. You apologize if you’re sorry, but know that the nimblest, strongest hands can’t rebuild a bridge out of embers, so cut new wood. Start from scratch. You love with your whole heart. If you’re jealous, talk yourself from the ledge. If you can’t talk yourself down from the ledge, have a good time up there, looking down on the world. If you find yourself in a cage, reach out through the bars for the key, unlock the door, and run away. If running away gets dangerous, run home. If home doesn’t mean what it used to mean, decide what home will be in the future. If your best friend says she doesn’t trust you, hold her jaw in your hand until it hurts, and make her face you. That’s all it takes. If you think you love a guy, see how his hand looks in yours, that’s all it takes. If you get exiled into a new land, then go discover it. And if you feel like you’re drowning, go swimming.”
—Hobson Brown
“But someday I’m going to find somebody and love him and love him and never let him go.”
—F. Scott Fitzgerald, Tender Is the Night
There should be a special place in hell for all those that tell everyone but you about their problems with you and that incessantly write indirect posts about you.
I guess childishness is an art you have perfected, but please don’t act like we’re friends. Thank you.
I am thankful for good friends during hard times. Things have been really bad with family, but I’m grateful for those who have been there - and continue to be there.
Thank you.
“Along the way, I’ve learned that you can’t let anyone in too far and you can’t trust endlessly. The biggest mistake you can make is to care or love someone more than yourself, because then you are just setting yourself up for disappointment. Boundaries are necessary so that you can protect yourself, because once you’re broken, you’ll never be fully fixed.”
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